I am so tired that my thoughts are jumbled and making little sense. I just needed to make an effort here. It was an odd day and not good odd. But, even the bad things happened in a way that was as good as possible. So much worse could have come out of the things that were bad. I am grateful.
I used to sit in deafening silence
In an empty apartment
Hearing the sounds of my own heart
Beating only because that was its job,
And hearing the TV
Or the lives of others
Rushing around outside my door.
I used to sit a lot
And do nothing.
I used to drive at night and get lost in movies
And stay up late and sleep in while time crept by
And go places and do things with my friends,
But not now.
Now, even the silence is not silent.
I hear breathing all around me.
I live in a house that is full of life
And my heart beats for those who live here.
I still hear the TV,
But the lives of others is muffled by
The lives that are one with my own.
I rarely sit, and if I sit
It is to rock the small people
Who call me "Mommy"
Doing nothing is a foreign concept
Driving at night so rare
That I struggle to locate my headlights
I no longer get lost in movies
I now get lost in the pretend play
That swirls and changes with each breath
Of each child trying to keep up with their own ideas.
I still stay up late, I have to
Lest the house and its contents take over and choke us all,
But there are no more late mornings in my world.
Time goes too fast these days to sleep in and miss a moment.
I used to be a lot of things that I lost
But I do not miss them
I traded them in for things that are so much better.
I live now...not just physically
But in my soul, where it counts.
My soul sings and dances and does not care who is watching
Or that it has no rhythm or that it sings off key.
It cannot help itself.
When I lost all of me...
I became found.
When I did not know who I was
It was because I was not yet me.
I thought that I was supposed to be
That which I was named
But then,
At long last
I discovered the real me
And her name is
Mommy.
-A. Christine Tolar
April 28, 2011